15+ Sure-Fire Tips For Calming An Angry Child

15 Sure-Fire Tips for Calming An Angry Child

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Jennifer Davis via lemonlimeadventures.com. March 30, 2016. Parenting Advice.

Do you have a child who can get frustrated, angry or downright explosive? Do they need your help calming down?

If you are a regular here, you know you are not alone.

Due to our son’s sensory needs and anxiety we deal with frequent meltdowns and are constantly looking for ways to help him.

I am excited today, because I have gathered over 15 resources and tips for calming an angry child that are sure to help you and your child.

1) Educate Yourself

I am a strong believer in being proactive before the problems arise.

If you have a child who can easily frustrate or become angry, you know just how important it is to “catch” the build up before the explosion and learn the “triggers” that could cause your child to meltdown.

Here are a few of my favorite resources for educating the parent or caregiver on ways to handle an angry child.

Being educated and armed with knowledge about the meltdowns makes it that much easier to help your child in the moment.


2) Educate your child

Knowing about meltdowns and how to parent an angry child can only get you so far.

If your child is unaware of their feelings, emotions and triggers, it will be very hard to manage the meltdowns.

In our house, the meltdowns can take us hostage.

Our home becomes un-peaceful and full of yelling.

When we all take a deep breath, make learning and talking about our emotions, and sit as a family to problem solve, our house restores a peaceful atmosphere and we are better prepared to help our angry child.


3) Conduct family meetings to problem solve before and after a meltdown occurs.

4) Teach empathy to help your child identify their feelings and understand others.

5) Teach your child tools to manage their own meltdowns.

6) Make a book of big feelings.

7) Put your child in charge of finding their own peace.

8) Learn what tools and strategies work for your child (every child is different and unique).

Not all children are the same.

This is such a true statement.

It relates to a child’s learning styles, their triggers and tools that they respond well too when they are frustrated.

In our home, I try to be as proactive as I can by finding and creating tools that we can use when my son has his meltdowns.

Making these ahead of time, give us time to learn if the tools work, teach him how to appropriately use the tools, and have on hand when the time comes to support him.

9) Try making a calm down jar (we love our lego calm down jar).


10) Teach your child how to blow out their fingers like candles.

11) Hug it out for proprioceptive input and children that respond well to touch.

12) Create an anti-anxiety box for your child, complete with essential oils (we love peace and calming).


13) Make a worry box full of art materials.

14) Have your child do chores for heavy work.

15) Make a squish box for proprioceptive input.


16) Create a peace corner for a calm down retreat.

17) Create a sensory toolkit.

Lastly, create a sensory toolkit that can be taken with you in the car, on family trips, to new places, and in our case, used in school!

In our home, we have taken many of these items and ideas and incorporated them into our Sensory Toolkit for home and school.

We continue to explore more options and are always trying new things.

You can learn more about it and other sensory tools for everyday needs on our new site, Project Sensory where we hope to get tools like these into the hands of teachers and children across the country (or globe).


It is important to remember that there are many layers involved in an angry child.

Their outbursts and meltdowns are a result of needing something.

The reasons vary (but are not limited to lack of sleep, food, or attention; an inability to communicate their frustrations; underlying sensory needs; anxiety and nervousness; and other outside factors.)

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